10 to the End Day 3: Proverbs and Priorities

Gratitude (2)

If there’s anything a Type A person is serious about, it’s our time. There never seems to be enough of it to accomplish all of our plans AND rest. There’s always a task that demands much of our time and attention and many of us struggle with balancing things of importance and prioritizing things that don’t bring us immediate results. So here’s a question, in 2017 what got the majority of your time and attention? Did you procrastinate? Did you neglect one area of your life to prioritize another? Was there anything you rushed toward in this last year that could have waited?

There is a proverb that says,

The plans of people who work hard succeed. You can be just as sure that those in a hurry will become poor.

Proverbs 21:5

There you have it, a scripture praising work ethic. But there is much more to explore here that can help us wrap up 2017 with honest evaluation. The scripture says those who work hard succeed, it doesn’t say that only people who work hard on things that are good will be successful. Some of us, myself included, worked very hard toward some things in this past year that did not end up serving us well. We spent much too much time working toward some activities, or relationships that were not in God’s plans for us simply because they seemed to make sense to us or because they were what we wanted. And that work was successful at something, but not at elevating us closer to our purpose in the body of Christ and in our relationship with God.

We must be careful next year where we spend our time and energy being mindful of the results it my yield us. Too much time at work will lead to success in your respective field but could also lead to unsuccessful personal relationships if you’re not careful. Spending big chunks of time with friends or a significant other may lead to success in those relationships but could you be neglecting time with family or on school or work? Spending too much time obsessing over something that is out of your control, or dedicating too much energy to negative feelings will make you successful at keeping yourself in a constant negative state of mind. And in all of these things, are we spending enough time growing our relationship with God?

Rushing toward the plans we’ve made for ourselves while overlooking the need to prioritize other areas of our lives, including our relationship with God can certainly leave us poor in the areas we neglect. So in the coming year, let’s make sure we are creating balance. Try setting alarms for prayer times, designating a day/time per week for strictly family activities (if your schedule allows such), using phone apps to make to do lists and hold yourself accountable to putting them in order of priority and holding yourself accountable to that. We are only one person so we sometimes can’t be perfect in our priorities, but recognizing that as a need, is important to being well-rounded and being focused on our calling.

Priorities Activity:

Write down the answers to these questions for consideration:

  1. How did you spend most of your time this year?
  2. What got most of your attention?
  3. What needs more of your attention?
  4. Where did you fit in relationship building time with God?
  5. What can you do to make better use of your time in the coming year?

If any of your interpersonal relationships suffered this past year as a result of time management, try asking the people in your life what they would like to see from you and reaching a compromise. This often lets people know they are important to you. 

 

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10 to the End Day 4: Who was God?

Gratitude

As we’re having our moments of introspection to close out our 2017, it’s important that as we’re looking at ourselves, we also look to God. We have all, at some point, asked God to be head of our lives but surrendering to God is not a 1 time activity. We need to challenge ourselves to continuously surrender our fear of not having control to God.

Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.

Revelation 3:20

We have already expressed we’d like a relationship with God and to know God is to know that you will never be totally left to your own devices. However, Christ does not force His way into our lives. God is always who God is, but we have still have to invite God to be who God is personally to us.

So, very simply, who has God been to you this year? Was God your go to consultant when you needed to make heavy decisions? or was God your back up plan when what you planned to do did not work? Did you trust God to be your provider this year? Or were you constantly stressing about how the things you need would materialize? Who were you to God? Were you a close friend or a distant relative?

Before we truly move forward into a new year with God being examples of Christ’s love, we have to be honest with ourselves and with God about where we are in our relationship with one another. Some of us may be able to celebrate immense growth in our spiritual lives, while others of us may notice the points in our lives where we used God instead of loved God. Some of us may be able to celebrate and challenge ourselves to do better at the same time.

Ultimately, as we move forward, it’s important we recognize who we are moving forward with.

Who is God activity:

  1. Make a list of who you allowed God to be for you this year? What areas of your life did you willingly invite God into?
  2. Next, make a list of who you needed God to be for you this year? Where didn’t you allow God to take full control that you need to reevaluate for the coming year?
  3. Look at both of these lists and take time to envision how you will merge the two in the coming year.

10 to the End Day 1: Gratitude

Gratitude

As the year comes to a close, it is every Type A person’s instinct is to begin planning for what’s to come. Many of us have already began planning since the 4th quarter of 2017 began. We have big plans and small plans and back up plans and everything in between. Some of us had a great year, others of us are barely hanging on and are seemingly being dragged into the next season. But no matter what kind of year you’ve had, no matter what kinds of plans you have for the next, one thing we cannot forget to do is to reflect.

Reflection, for me, begins with gratitude and celebration. It is so easy, as people who desire control to put our blinders on and always be looking for what’s next. We often overlook what has already happened to rush toward what’s to come. But if we are seeking to be obedient, it’s imperative that we spend time during our preparation for what’s next to fully close this chapter being thankful for something.

This is especially important for those of us who have had a rough year. Maybe this year was supposed to turn out totally differently but it all just fell apart and you could barely hold it together.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 tells us to “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Jesus Christ.”

Therefore, in obedience, we should spend time in our preparation for what’s next to thank God for something. ANYTHING. From your biggest wins, to the fact that you are still breathing and have a chance to recover after your greatest failure. We cannot fully prepare for what’s to come if we have not, first acknowledged God’s faithfulness to us in what has passed.

Philippians 4:12-13 is a great reminder to be grateful. It says,

“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength.”

Whatever it is you were able to accomplish this year, it was through the strength given to you. Whatever hardships you had to endure this year, you made it out because of the faithfulness of God. There is always something to be grateful for. So before you lift your pen to write your goals, before you place your fingers on your keyboard to plan out all of next year’s accomplishments, before you listen to your favorite moguls advice for how to make next year your year, take some time to tell God thank you. If you’re looking for further biblical inspiration for gratitude, check out this list from echurch that includes 20 bible verses on gratitude and thanksgiving.

Gratitude Activity:

  1. Make a list of everything you’ve been through this year that was important. Don’t worry about whether it was good or bad. Just write down anything that comes to mind that stood out to you this year.
  2. Go through the list and write at least 1 thing you can be grateful for in each of those instances.
  3. Pause and say a prayer of gratitude that includes each thing on the list. Make sure this is a prayer that doesn’t make any requests. This is strictly a thank you. Spend time meditating on what you’re thanking God for so that you can really inspire the feelings of gratitude to match your prayer.
  4. Post your gratitude list somewhere visible (to you. Doesn’t have to be made public) as a reminder to yourself to remain grateful. Add things periodically as you remember them.