A good sign of outgrowing something is when it becomes uncomfortable, too tight, too loose, etc.
Discomfort in your life may be a sign that you need more space to expand beyond your current location and circumstances.
“Neither do people pour new wine into old wineskins. If they do, the skins will burst; the wine will run out and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved.”
sometimes we, in all our control freak tendencies, linger in a particular place or circumstance with a particular person or persons simply because we aren’t finished. We haven’t quite gotten out of it what WE felt like we needed to get. That could mean anything from not getting the desired outcome from a project and wanting to repeat it in hopes of a different result, to giving something or someone everything we could possibly give and not getting the reaction we feel like we deserve.
The above verse is about wine skins. Back in bible times, people carried around and drank wine from a sack usually made out of the skin of an animal. Once stretched to fit the desired amount of wine, the wineskin was done. There was no refilling them or reusing them. You could not put new wine in an old wineskin.
In this next season of taking our hands off of what we can’t control, remember that when you ask God to take you where he wants you to go, everyone and everything can’t go with you and some things will have to be left completely as is. No cleaning up, no tying up loose ends just leave them where they are. You are growing. Growth is often uncomfortable, it’s lonely and tiresome but it is for the best. Your new outlook, habits, attitudes, your entire new self won’t fit into your old lifestyle no matter how hard you try and make the situation one that you can function within. It doesn’t mean you’re better than or above anyone in your past life but it means you are better off outside of those circumstances. It may even mean that the people in your past are better off without you as well. Trust the process and allow God to do what God does best… and that’s pretty much everything. God does all things well.
Shake off the desire to fix things that are out of your control, grow and move on.